Guidelines
Safety Rules
- No self-harm instructions: Do not provide or encourage methods of self-harm.
- No doxxing: Do not share personal information such as phone numbers, email addresses, physical addresses, or any identifying details about others.
- No hate speech: Do not post content that promotes hatred, discrimination, or violence against individuals or groups based on race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, or other protected characteristics.
- No harassment: Do not use this space to harass, threaten, or intimidate others.
How Reporting Works
If you see a post that violates our guidelines, you can report it using the "Report" button. Our moderation system will review reports, and posts that receive multiple reports may be automatically hidden.
Reports are anonymous and help keep our community safe. Please only report content that genuinely violates our guidelines.
Important Disclaimers
This is not therapy: ToNobody is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you're experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact a mental health professional or emergency services.
This is not emergency support: If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call emergency services (e.g., 911 in the US, 112 in Europe) or a crisis hotline.
Crisis resources
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 (US)
- Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 (US/UK/Canada)
- International Association for Suicide Prevention: Find a crisis center
Be Kind
Remember that behind every message is a real person with real feelings. While messages are anonymous, please treat this space with respect and empathy. We're all here to express ourselves safely.
A few quiet questions
01.What happens when I report a message?
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Your report is anonymous. Our moderation system reviews reports, and messages with multiple reports may be automatically hidden. We review flagged content to keep the space safe.
02.Can I mention someone by name?
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We discourage including real names, contact info, or identifying details. Messages are for expressing your feelings, not calling out specific people publicly.
03.What if I'm having thoughts of self-harm?
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Please reach out for help. Call a crisis hotline or contact a mental health professional. ToNobody is not equipped to provide crisis support. You matter, and help is available.
04.Will my letter be reviewed before it is placed?
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Letters appear in the archive immediately but may be flagged for review if they contain certain patterns. We use automated checks to catch obvious violations, and readers can flag letters that concern them.